Being a girl-2

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9th std., where we were being polished and gearing up for the next "important" year of our life..Glimpses of friends getting into "first-relationships." By now, even started developing a certain manner of talking and interacting, especially with friends of the opposite gender. It wasn't the usual "jumping hyper" response that were given out! It became more subtle. Being taught how to cook for the first time, lessons given by mum on how to behave when guests come at home. Dealing with problems on monthly basis.! These were changes that took place over a period of time, yet went unnoticed. After completing of 10th, whenever there were talks on what career to choose, I would always be advised on choosing something, that would be flexible so that I could adjust with new priorities, in future. Those priorities, whose name was also yet unknown. Sometimes, I wonder...will that "priority" also be getting similar advice or instead, would be encouraged on doing what he likes to do!

Forwarding a li'l more, the first time I travelled alone by public transport, the first day of junior college. Usually, there used to always be someone accompanying, but the day I first time took a train, I still remember, my dad's 45 mins advise on "HOW TO TRAVEL IN MUMBAI"...and that too for a mere 10mins journey!! Right from how to buy a ticket, to taking care of the belongings, I was told everything...and the conversation went on till I reached the college safe!!

But, the lesson wasn't over yet! I had just learnt how to buy a ticket, board and get down the train...the main lesson was yet to come! Over the days, I learnt about staying alert as to the kind of people around me, ignoring crooks who sat on the platform and whistled, turn away when any man looks at you, carrying chilli powder and pen-knife, just in case!

I also recollect the first time, we girl-friends went out....out of our locality, alone, for the first time! Convincing parents, interrogation about who and all are coming, giving contact details of ALL the girls in the group...huff!! And finally, after getting a "yes" calling up and asking "Mummy ne haa bola...accha tu kya pehenrahi hai?" (Mummy told yes, what are you wearing anyways!) :P ;) :D

Such incidents happen only once in life! I call them "First-time experiences!".

No, it isn't that parents don't care where we go after we have grown but the hidden anxiety and care all those calls were filled with, which were irritating then, I somehow miss them now!!

I end here, for now...but before that all you girls reading this, I hope you've realized how special you were and are, maybe not for your boyfriends, but definitely for that Dad, who stayed up at night and changed your diapers when your mum was tired and asleep, who listened to all your annoying poems, who carried you every evening, home, when you stretched your hands up! You are special for that Mom, who sees her reflection in you and plays the role of a ''hidden lover"....who's ultimate goal in life is to get you married off to a guy and see you settled in life! :)

You must know, you are special...you deserve to be!

P.S: I apologize to the guys, that they do not have much to read...but then too...I hope there was something you liked! :)

Till then, have fun!

Regards,

Rithika

Nothing is complex!

I remember my first day of 11th standard, as a SCIENCE student! Just out of school, gearing up and all excited for a new start-College!! yippeeee!

The first sir enters the class.

Math Sir: Good morning students! I am going to take maths for you all.

Me (to myself): Aiyyoo!! No no! I hate math! It is difficult. 

That subject screwed up my 10th marks also. I hate it! I don't wanna start my 11th with it!! plllleeeeaassseee!!

Math Sir starts discussing the portion, paper pattern etc.! 

Me (to myself): Shit shit!! diz sux big time!! bborrrriinnnggg! I knew I wouldn't like it!

Mummmy!!!!

Math Sir: Okay, so now we start with the first topic of 11th std. (pauses).

Me:(Sigh!)

Math Sir: Complex numbers.

Me: Whhaaaattt!! "Complex numbers!" ...Is he kidding? Can't he start with something easy? We are beginners, not some pro!! Wtf! 

Math Sir starts the chapter and I am left with no other option but to remove a book and pen and start alongwith him! Duh!

I browse through the pages of the chapter and find some alphabets, some square-roots and loads of "exercises"...He starts with the introduction, moves on to formulae and then to sums! And, I sit there, all the while looking at him and remembering- Math is JUST NOT my cup of tea! 

Sir starts the chapter, I realize my cribbing isn't going to help...I would rather try to follow the concept and learn what is being taught.

The chapter starts, it gets over, days pass...I practice it at home as it was in the portion for my sems.

Exams are over. Results are out and I realize that I've done well, really well in Math! Especially, the section wid COMPLEX numbers in it! Infact, my maths score was better than all other subjects! No, I am not boasting about my "newly-acquired Math skills", I was juz projecting out the "attitude".

Doesn't it happen with all of us, sometime or the other? We often go by superficial view, and create impressions. About many things!

LIFE, too! I had a friend (who is still a friend, but not in touch!). Anything and everything that happend in class, good or bad, in her personal life, any problem, her attitude and approach was that- all the bad things in the world are fated for her! Her this approach used to, sometimes spoil all our moods!

Each coin has two sides.Agreed! That doesn't mean that you constantly have to emphasize on the negative side. 

Life isn't about being negative! It is a simple funda- Your life, you do what you like to do! At the age where you can't move your limbs, when you look back, you must not regret of the chances that you didn't take! Dying with a regret, is the worst punishment one can give himself! 

The reason why you shouldn't be negative is 'coz life isn't complex too! (Solving the chapter with regards to -ve numbers were difficult! trust me!)

When things are complex, you don't have a solution, that is when you get over-hyper and act pessimistic. But, when every problem in LIFE has a solution, tomorrow even if you fall in a mess, you WILL make a way out! Then why worry? Why not rather take risks and learn the lesson?!

And as far as results of "taking risks" and coming out successful are concerned, they are very sweet! very very sweet!

Our life isn't complex  because:

• At this stage, we don't have the responsibilty of raising a family(Bills, children, handling a house is more difficult than studies, for sure!).
  
• Our parents and friends are still with us.
  
• We do not need to worry about bills!
  
• We get all that we need. (I won't use the word "WANT")
  
• We don't need to "earn" money yet.
• The only things that are irritating are studies! And ironically, that is the only thing we got to do!
• Things HAVE changed, but not to an extent that they can't be mended.

With soo many positive points, I don't really find a reason to be pessimistic!

P.S.: This post is mainly for those students, who think like my "not-in-touch friend"!

And, all the parents or adults reading this, your lives are difficult, I know. But still, NOT complex!

Life is too short to wake up with regrets, everything happens for a reason! Forgive quickly! If there is a second chance, grab it. If it changes your life, let it! No one said life would be easy, but you can be assured that it would be worth it!

Nothing is complex, neither numbers, nor LIFE!

Infact, Math is now, one amongst my "liked" subjects! :)

Wishing y'all a very happy, fresh and awesome 2011! Enjoy!

Regards,

Rithika